childhood & the absence of pain
There is an 80% + likelihood that you are just like me and had 0 adversity in your childhood.
By adversity, I mean very long periods of pronounced pain. My standards start at the threshold of an 80km ultra run or say a Vipassana retreat. Starting and not giving up a business. Committing to a long term relationship.
If our parents protected us from imminent pain and adversity, how can most of us expect to live our adult lives successfully?
Society’s nice, middle class is nice, but I feel it’s only been some type of coincidence that I’ve stumbled upon “pain as a service”. Society wants comfort and stability. Life though is all about thriving in discomfort.
The thing with PaaS is that it needs to be self-imposed, it can’t come from your parents.
The question being: “How do you make sure, as a parent, to make sure your child understands discipline and sacrifice for long term fulfillment?”